I'm a simple girl in a complex world.

Maybe I'm not so simple

The Mr. doesn't understand why I have "need to cry" days or moments. Sometimes, life isn't sad but you have a lot of emotions bottled up and the only way to let them out is to cry!

The other night, he had to be up at 4:30am and I needed to cry - I could have stayed in bed and kept him awake but I decided that this time I need my Heavenly father to hold me as I cried. I woke up on the couch feeling refreshed and much closer to God.

Sometimes, this girl just need a good ole clean tear party to feel like herself again!

Happy Living!

Nappy Roots

This will be my third time going natural and best believe I'm NEVER going back!!!

I love being natural. Just like any hair/woman relationship it's got it's ups and downs. Yes, I wish it was thicker, grew faster and wasn't so high maintenance but hey this is what God gave me. My hair loves being taken care of, it likes quality products. It doesn't have to be expensive but it's gotta have have the right ingredients and I have to be gentle with it. I don't always do a good job but here are a few of my inspirations/hope for my hair. Enjoy!!


Its official, I'm going back to school. I miss school, I miss learning and being on a campus. I've made the decision and even told my boss about it. I've prayed about it and still praying that God will direct my ways regarding what program to study.

I wish I would have been a praying high school kid to seek God's face regarding what school, degree, e.t.c I should go into. There's no time for regret I guess, but this time I'm not making the same mistake twice.

I take my first HR class at UC this spring and I've excited about it. I got interested in HR after working at my current position and with the research I've done, I think it will be a great fit for me. It's a career that has a lot of women, so I guess competition will be fierce but it's also a career that seems to be friendly to women who want to have a family.

Cost of school will be high but I trust that God will provide, He did during my undergrad and I know He'll do it again.

Looking forward to being a student again and joining the ranks of those who complain about having too much work to do and not getting enough sleep.

Happy Learning!

Oh to be FREE!

Money can enslave people, rich or poor. Like most women, money to me is a form of security. I've gotten to the place where I don't depend on it to do things only God can do. I have learned with God's help that the money I have is God's and I need to honor Him with everything He gives me, including money.

I've been credit card debt free for almost two years now and let me tell you something, it's a wonderful feeling. I still have what they call "good debt" - The house and student loan. We paid cash for the wedding (I'll do a post on how we pulled off a 400+ people wedding for about $8,000 some day). However, in the meantime I wanted to give some information that I've learned from friends and just researching regarding debt.

I know three people who are currently using the debt consolidation method and they swear by it. If you truly can't afford to pay off all your debt like I did, then that is the best option. Depending on how much debt you have it can take anywhere from one to five years to complete the program.

If you don't already know this, I suggest you check out this website to find out how the new laws that will be in effect 2/2/10 will affect you and your credit card debt. http://finance.yahoo.com/banking-budgeting/article/108854/the-new-credit-card-rules-what-to-expect?mod=bb-creditcards

I would suggest Dave Ramsey (www.daveramsey.com) for anyone who just doesn't know where to start. We took his 10 weeks course and learned so much about money and how to "live like no one else today, so you can live like no one else tomorrow".

In our family, the Mr. brought in some debt and we are working very hard to get him debt free as well so our family can officially be FREE of financial burdens.

Although it's difficult but we are cash paying family. I understand that no everyone can do this, but we really believe in it. If I don't have the cash to pay for it at the time of purchase, then I don't buy it. We still have credit cards and use them but each month they are paid in full.

I'm not a financial advisor but I'm pretty good with making and managing budgets, if you need any help or encouragement, please let me know and I'll be more that happy to help!

Happy Freedom!


This winter I've warmed up and scrapped my own car at least twice, shoveled snow everytime it's snowed and NEVER done laundry!I HATE DOING LAUNDRY.

Before I started shacking up with the Mr. I remember crying one winter morning because I had to scrape my car windows as all the men on my street scrapped their partner's cars. I swore that day that I'll never do this once I'm married.

Well, I got married and occasionally scrape my car window. The truth is, he does it most times but there are days when he's sick or I have to leave way too early for him to wake up. He offers, but I usually give him a break. Iknow, I'm too nice. :O)

The snow shovel thing has become my workout. I have an EFX machine that I don't use often because it's in a room without TV or anything that will create excitement for a girl working out. So, to treat myself I join the Mr. outside and we spend quality time shoveling, throwing snow balls at each other and just goofing off. The work gets done, but we have a great time and I get a great full body workout!

Friends with wedding bands

Should married people have single friends of the opposite gender?

The answer in my opinion is quite simple- YES! However the “yes” is contingent on several factors, so I guess it’s not so simple. Is your partner is ok with the friendship? Do they know and communicate regularly with the “friend”?. Like all relationships, the friendship should have healthy boundaries. You probably should not be calling each other late at night or only when your spouse leaves the room or house. It’s also probably not a good idea to bash your spouse to your friend even if you are all friends. I know – “you’ve been friends even before you met your partner” and to that I say, you should have married him or her!

Now, trust me my best girlfriends and the Mr. often make fun of me but typically it’s to my face and if they do it without me being present one of them tells me about it. I love that my best friends and my husband gets along. In our case, I have more single male friends than he does single female friends but I have very strong boundaries. He knows about every one of them and if he feels slightly uncomfortable about conversations that we might have had or the friendship he knows that I’ll put our marriage first and do whatever is necessary to safe guard it.

I think people sometimes give the enemy (The Devil) way too much credit and then there are others who do not give him enough credit. I’d like to think that I have a healthy balance. The devil is wicked and is looking for anyway to destroy my marriage because marriage in my opinion next to our relationship with Him is the most important relationship humans have. From experience when something is that important to God, it becomes equally important for the enemy to destroy it.

Don’t forget the vows you made on your wedding day. You promised to put nothing or anyone above your spouse and what you have as a couple, so keep your promise and be cautious of your friendships.

Happy marriage!


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